I got nothin .....

So when I started this a week-ish ago I had no idea it would be so difficult to write your thoughts down consistantly.  I have plenty of things swirling around in my head all the time but getting them out on paper "or computer screen" is really hard.  The first few days I was totally excited .... then came children .... and their behavior ... then my birthday..... and the last thing I wanted to do was have to think about putting something to words......

So ..... children and behavior.  Do you ever think .... I've completely lost control of my children?  That was the case this week.  I like to think I have a really great relationship with my sons and their friends.  So much so that over the years our home has become the "place to hang".  I must say that I really do love it .... 95% of the time.  Unfortuately, the 5%  I don't love it .... I REALLY Dislike it ......

What I mean by losing control is ... You know how other children always act really good at your house when visiting.  We all make the comments to the "other kids" parents .... oh they are great ... No worries they are always welcome.  And then it happens, one day you are standing in your own kitchen about to explode because the kitchen is a disaster .... food left out .... dirty dishes everywhere ... crumbs ... empty "food boxes" .... because they've eaten everything! ..... you get the picture ....and you can take out the word kitchen and insert whatever room in the house you want because all the rooms look the same.

Cleaning up is just the first part of "losing control" .... there are also the endless .... "Would you please bring your dirty clothes" .... "Would you please clean the cat box" .... "Would you please take the trash out" ... Would you, Would you, Would you ...... blah blah blah.  You never have to ask the questions once ....it's always minimally its 3 or 4 times.  When you finally lose it and scream your question they have the nerve to say ...." why are you yelling mom??"  I don't know about you but this just raises my blood pressure even higher.

You know what ... I'm not even going to rattle on about this  ..... Every parent in America knows what I'm talking about.  Yes, I have typical children.  Yes, for the most part they are really good kids that happen to "loose their minds" ocassionally.  Yes, I believe we as parents have instilled the right values and have taught them right from wrong.  So why do we as parents lose it???? Because lets admit it .... we are control freaks ..... sorry to say it ....

We believe our kids should be perfect little robots ..... come on parents .... think back .... how many times did we as children do stupid things ..... We all today say .... "When I was your age ....... " insert reference of your choice, but there is that little "twist" in the pit of our stomaches ... reminding us all the things we got in trouble for as kids ......  and for that matter all the things we didn't get caught for doing too.

So I'm typing these words but I really need to listen to them too ..... Everyone take a breath .... our children are going to make mistakes ..... and drive you crazy by not listening to your words of wisdom .... but they are going to grow up and I can pretty safely bet that they will be okay..... and if they aren't (by some very small chance) ... it won't be for our lack of trying .....

Sorry this was a disjointed rambling ..... but I'm tired and it's been a long week of dealing with unruly children ..... and I have wasted alot of energy "flipping out" as they would say .... about things that they were definately out of line about but in the grand scheme of things ...... were not worth most of the energy that I expended ranting about it ....

Nite folks .....
~joie