Can you take "too good of care" of your kids ...

I've been thinking alot lately about the fact my sons are all growing up ......

Some of the things you teach your children are by "doing" actually most things are.  One would think by doing things for your children that you are showing them how to behave as an adult.

Things like helping when you see they might need it ... even if they don't ask ...... making their favorite meal if they are sick or sad ..... "sliding them money" for something special they want .... Smiling .... being happy to see them ..... telling them they are good at something ..... encouraging to "go for their dreams" .....

and by doing those things you would think they would do the same things for others ..... hmmmm

Most days I think that they take me for granted ... like "she's mom ... she is supposed to do all those things for us"

Have I made my job look so easy that they don't every think that I or their father ever need anything?  Because if I ask for them to start doing some of their own things or to help more with the house we ALL live in .... it seems an inconvenience.  Sort of like "that's your job ... not mine"

Granted they are nice on Mother's day or my birthday or  Christmas ... I'd rather they not be thoughtful on those three days if they aren't going to be the other 362 days a year.

I just think I've done tooooo much and they don't understand it's time to pick up and be responsible for their selves a bit more ...... god knows they want to make every other decision on their own and want you to "but out" and let them be "grown" .....

So .... I am very frustrated sitting here writing this .... feeling guilty for wanting to stop doing things for them and angry at the same time for keeping on doing them when they seem to EXPECT that I do it ..... or they say they will do it and never do .....

That's what I'm pondering .....
~joie